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| Do you really want him back? |
Assuming you answered yes to that question, now you have to deal with the mistress. Or do you?
If your husband is truly serious, it is his job to set boundaries with the woman he had an affair with. Even though you despise her and you really want to give her a piece of your mind, don't do it. She is not at fault. Not fully. If your husband breaks it off with her, yet she still lingers around the first question is;
Is he giving her a reason to linger?
If you are confident that he is not and she is constantly calling and texting to the point it is disrupting your life, then you have a problem, that needs addressing. Here are my tips for you.
Require complete openness from your mate.
As the trust is growing between the two of you, now is not the time for him to be secretive with the cell phone. He should have no problem sharing text, voice mails and phone calls with you. Not that you need to check it 100 times a day, but you should have a clear idea what the other woman is trying to communicate.Openness is twofold, your husband also needs to set clear boundaries with the other woman that he is no longer interested.
Don't be afraid to involve the authorities.
This woman does not have the right to harass you or your husband, just because she feels like it. If you feel like she is crossing the line, don't hesitate to file a complaint or in some cases get a restraining order.
Work on the Relationship
Ultimately, this woman can only continue to do harm if you allow her to. If your husband is serious about reconciling and you are willing to take him back, she doesn't matter and is not a factor. By seeking couples counseling and working on the issues that brought about the affair, you and your mate can overcome anything. Even a pushy other woman.
Stay Strong!
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