Being Stalked On Facebook by Roseanna Leaton

Have you ever been Facebook stalked?  What happens when its related to your partner? Checkout this informative article Being Stalked On Facebook by Roseanna Leaton, for an interesting tale of what happens and what you can do to protect yourself.

Being stalked on facebook is not a pleasant experience. I wonder in actual fact how many people have been stalked on facebook? When one thinks about stalking the first scenario which pops to mind is one of a man obsessively following a woman with some sort of physically abusive intent. 

But stalking actually takes many different forms. In fact, something which happens more frequently than you might expect is that someone begins to stalk you on facebook. So many of us share photographs and an immense amount of our lives in written format on social sharing sites such as facebook or through placing blog posts. Sometimes this is simply a social thing which we do; at other times this type of social posting is part of your business networking and marketing of your business interests. 

You do not tend to get stalked by complete strangers whether you are being stalked in person or being stalked on facebook; there is usually a tie of some description, loose though it may be. Thus it comes as a bit of a surprise when you are in the latter category (posting for business purposes) and you get stalked. 

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When you know its over.....

Welcome to the blog.  I want to challenge every woman out there, to ask the question, "Do You Really Want Him Back?"

Your husband left you and you want advice.  If you consult the (rest of the) internet, you will find 90% of the articles are like the following; "How to Get Him Back", Secrets to Bring Him Home, Get Back with Your Ex, and numerous other tips and tricks to bring back the man who left you.

Do you really have to pursue this man, I know you want to, but do you have to?  You are crying everyday, your life is in shambles.  He possibly left you with bills, children and responsibilities that will go unmet.  Why should you want this man back.

Reason's you want your husband back;

• Your lonely
• You miss the intimacy
• You need his support
• You need his money
• You love him

Do these sound familiar?  Is that enough to try to get him back.  I don't think so.
Let's explore why.

First, why did he leave initially?

That may seem like an important question, at first. This question gets are problems solving instincts in gear.

"Whatever it is, I can fix it"

The only problem is that the question is the least important issue at hand AND your response is the most important issue YOU need to start with.

For more insight on how to curb your desire to fix everything please read my e-book;

     

Keep walking, your new life is just around the bend

4 Quick Tips to Moving On

Tip 1
DO Something
As easy as it sounds, as simple as it is, doing something is a quick way to get your mind off of your husband.  The quicker you put yourself in motion, the sooner you hedge off "break up depression."

Tip 2
Change your environment
Don't go to the same spots you went with your partner, it will only bring on memories of when you were there, together. This is your time to be adventurous.  Go to a different grocery store, try a restaurant he would hate, take a new route home from work.  If you can't move from your shared dwelling, try re decorating, or even just re arranging the furniture.

Tip 3
Contact your friends
With Facebook it is so easy to find long lost friends from high school, college, and past jobs.  Why don't you find someone you have lost contact with (and not your ex-boyfriend!).  Connecting with new people, can help you remember better times and can be a good positive reinforcement to making a change.  If you don't have any friends, join a charity, community organization or a church, where people are looking for new people and used to welcoming in new members.  It is a good place to find acceptance and support.

Tip 4
Forgive yourself
People break up and get divorced, partners leave and come back.  You may or may not have been the cause of the split.  Either way, cut your losses and forgive yourself.  It truly is one of the best things you can do to move on.  You can forgive him, later.

Check back for more tips, you can find more explanations and suggestions in my new e-book -

Do You Really Want Him Back?

3 Tips on Getting Rid of the "Other Woman"

Do you really want him back?

When there is an affair it can tear the fabric of your marriage apart.  Some marriages don't recover from infidelity.  It is certainly something to consider when deciding if you really want your husband back.


Assuming you answered yes to that question, now you have to deal with the mistress.  Or do you?


If your husband is truly serious, it is his job to set boundaries with the woman he had an affair with. Even though you despise her and you really want to give her a piece of your mind, don't do it.  She is not at fault.  Not fully.  If your husband breaks it off with her, yet she still lingers around the first question is;


Is he giving her a reason to linger?


If you are confident that he is not and she is constantly calling and texting to the point it is disrupting your life, then you have a  problem, that needs addressing.  Here are my tips for you.


Require complete openness from your mate.  


As the trust is growing between the two of you, now is not the time for him to be secretive with the cell phone.  He should have no problem sharing text, voice mails and phone calls with you.  Not that you need to check it 100 times a day, but you should  have a clear idea what the other woman is trying to communicate.Openness is twofold, your husband also needs to set clear boundaries with the other woman that he is no longer interested.


Don't be afraid to involve the authorities.  


This woman does not have the right to harass you or your husband, just because she feels like it.  If you feel like she is crossing the line, don't hesitate to file a complaint or in some cases get a restraining order.


Work on the Relationship
Ultimately, this woman can only continue to do harm if you allow her to.  If your husband is serious about reconciling and you are willing to take him back, she doesn't matter and is not a factor.  By seeking couples counseling and working on the issues that brought about the affair, you and your mate can overcome anything.  Even a pushy other woman.


Stay Strong!

Relationship Advice - You and your partner are mirrors